Strategies, Not Practices

Not long ago, I heard a speaker question the reigning popularity in churchy circles of “practices.” For over a decade now, practical and pastoral theologians have been trying to recover for mainline and evangelical Protestants the value of things like fasting and contemplative prayer as vehicles for Christian spirituality. Books, sermons, and retreats have proliferated, much to the good.

This speaker, however, was bothered by the stability assumed by a focus on practices. “Sure,” she said (and I paraphrase), “Centering prayer is good and valuable and all that when my life is well enough in order. But when the wheels are falling off, it’s nearly impossible to find the energy required by practices.” Also, it’s easy for a focus on practices to over-deliver on expectations that keeping them up is a buffer against struggle or misfortune.

Instead, she suggested strategies. Life is hard. The Struggle Is Real. Spiritual traditions and communities like Christianity hold out strategies for dealing with the needs of the day fruitfully and with hope. Prayer as a strategy rather than a practice?

That talk was a few years ago, but it’s coming back to me this week as Lent gets underway and people are asking me what Lenten discipline I plan to undertake or what I plan to give up. I’m actually itching for a Lenten strategy.

Remember That You Are Dust

Today is Ash Wednesday. It’s the beginning of the penitential season of Lent, when the Christian story reminds us of the mortality that brackets our existence.

“Remember that you are dust, and to dust you shall return.”

That’s good news.

The freedom we have to live, to create, to love, is only possible because it is bounded. Without constraints true freedom is impossible. We haven’t always been. We won’t always be. Thanks be to God.

We are only now, and in this moment of grace we can do astonishing things, make beautiful things, reach out, connect, give. Because we are dust we can do all that and more.

Immortality is not only impossible–it’s also a copout.

Remember that you are dust, and to dust you shall return, and go make something great.

What If Your Public Work Is Practically Private?

I’m all about doing our work publicly and not hiding it behind some scrim while we “perfect” it before sharing it with anyone. Like what Landon is doing. Every day.

But what if your public work is practically private?

What if the product you’re making and sharing with the world gets no traction, no engagement? What if it’s not connecting with anyone? Do you keep at it or shut it down?

I say keep at it. You’re building a body of work.

Two things about bodies of work. First, you don’t know who is connecting with it. Metrics and internet stats don’t tell the whole story, and you may be surprised not long from now when somebody shares what your project meant to them, though you knew nothing of it.

Second, bodies of work are durable, especially with the internet. You make a thing and put it out there, and it stays out there. Even if only for you to look back on your own growth, having a public body of work to assess now and again feels pretty valuable.

Keep making. Keep sharing.

 

I Disrespect That The Broncos Felt Disrespected

My hometown football team won the Super Bowl yesterday with a show of defensive dominance consistent with its performance over the course of a season in which the defense was ranked the best in the league and after which commentators suggested it as among the best ever. The day before the Super Bowl, the Broncos received still another endorsement of its defense’s supremacy when Defensive Coordinator Wade Phillips was named “Assistant Coach of The Year.”

Still, the world awakes the morning after to find analysis of the game like this:

The Broncos felt they were “disrespected” by the Panthers, by the media, by the general public.

Ugh.

Sports are not life. My job is nothing like Von Miller’s or Cam Newton’s, so I use caution when illustrating my work with examples from theirs. But, whatever your work, if you require a grievance to motivate you to excel, you can still be better.

Aren’t we all chasing a standard of excellence that is its own reward?

 

I Made This And It’s Worth Something

My friend Adam launched Illustrated Children’s Ministry in September by selling coloring sheets online for $1 each.

Today, barely six months later, he’s got hundreds of orders for sets of coloring posters for use by individuals, families, or churches. It’s a different thing than he had in mind when he started, but if he hadn’t started with something this would not have been possible.

There’s a story that explains how something became this thing, but it’s not really about one particular story of Instagram shares and web traffic spikes is it? It’s about taking the risk of sharing your thing with the public. It’s about taking the even bigger risk of putting a price tag on it and saying, “I made this and it’s worth something.”

If you don’t believe your posters (or your videos or your sermons) are actually worth something, nobody else will either.

Okay I’ll Learn Something New

I spent many minutes yesterday trying to make my Google-based email and calendaring system work for my new office setup, with zero success.

At some point I just decided to work with the new office’s program. Do I have a rosy Outlook about it? No. Did I have much of a choice? No. Is it an opportunity to flex a little and learn a different way of working? Yes.

I’m trying to get to “Okay-I’ll-Learn-Something-New” more quickly.

 

 

Liking The Same Shows Is Only The Beginning

When you first meet someone you’re going to be working with you look for common ground–shared interests that form a template for how you’re going to get along in those first days and weeks. It’s an important little dance of discovery. When you and your new colleagues watch the same shows or root for the same team it makes everyone more comfortable.

The joy of working with people who care about the same things you do is building things that will become the most enduring kind of shared interest: retreats, sermon series, videos, meeting agendas–all things you’ll look back on later and say, “That was amazing” or “That was terrible” but definitely “We did that together.”

 

First Days

The first day is like the 9th day is like the 43rd day is like the 762nd day in one sense, as the places and the some of the people are the same. Of course, it’s you every day, so . . .

But in another sense the first day presents opportunities and liabilities both symbolic and practical. The advantage you have on the first day is fresh energy, optimism, and a clean slate with people. The disadvantage? You know practically nothing and have given no one a reason to think you’re worth their trust.

A mentor told me on my last first day, “Begin as you intend to continue.” I took that to mean that the attempt to bowl people over with your ideas and energy at the starting gate will backfire once you begin to lag, which you surely will. So be mindful of the temptation to create unsustainable expectations.

But create some expectations on the first day, even if only of yourself. Crack a joke. Take a breather. Do something without being asked.

Worry less about impressing new people and more about impressing the person who has been through all your first days and who will endure the highs and lows of all the days after this: you.

 

 

All I Have Left Is My House Key

I sold the ’99 Honda Civic, and after I handed over its key the only one left on my ring is my house key.

I left the church keys on the desk on my way out. The church cabinet keys I forgot about I returned to Krista over coffee on Tuesday. The car key was the biggest, the heaviest one anchoring us to the life we’ve grown these past eight years, and now it’s gone.

I keep having these little moments of panic when the lightness of the key ring catches my attention and I suddenly believe I’ve left it behind on some convenience store counter or locked inside the house. Then I put my hand in my pocket and breathe a sigh of relief.

New keys are coming. I’m eager for them. Still, I’m going to enjoy a day with only one key.

 

Embrace The Dread

All day yesterday I was ahead of schedule–what schedule there was–because time moves slowly for me in big transitions, and the clock is ticking on the biggest transition of my life.

Saturday morning will come, and I will board a plane with a suitcase and an army duffel bag to land eight hours later in Chicago and the beginning of the next chapter. I will have Sunday to take a breath, and then the train leaves the station on Monday morning–working and living in a big new place.

All that is 48 hours away, and those hours are molasses-thick with dread. Dread slows things down.

I don’t dread the new work or the new church. I don’t dread Chicago for sure. When I think about it, I can’t locate the source of the dread. But it’s there. Fear of failure? Probably. Anxiety about being apart from my family for four months? No doubt. A general dislike of changes to my routine? Yep.

I keep thinking that if there was a way to be airlifted over the next several months of professional and family transition to be dropped off in the place where life is normal and routine again, I would pay dearly for that ride.

But aren’t the tumultuous and unsteady seasons of transition the most generative? Can’t they be sources of great learning and transformation?

My last transition was my roughest ever, and it produced a writing project I’m glad got done. Had it been easy, I wouldn’t have made that.

I’m trying to embrace the dread to see what I can make with it.