Morning Morning Quarterback Is Not Back

I used to write these Monday Morning Quarterback posts that narrated Sundays (like this one). It was a fun way to process what was, for a season, a very demanding day full of unpredictable church and family responsibilities. After a couple of years of writing it, though, Sunday got to be less demanding. I figured […]

Your Church Is Awesome

No, really. It’s awesome. These people come together at least once a week to rehearse a good news story about sacrificial grace and ultimate redemption. They sing (who sings anymore?!). They pray–sometimes with one person speaking and everyone else listening; sometimes with everyone speaking at the same time; sometimes taking turns! They even partake together […]

Come Snow, Rain, Sleet, Or Hail

T’is the season for start-of-the-year mailings: calendars, flyers, letters, sign-up forms, consent forms. Watch the website. Watch your email. Watch your mailbox. Yes, your actual mailbox. I’m ready for a straight up analog experiment this fall. Every event announcement we post to our Facebook page and our website and a Constant Contact campaign is also […]

Formal, Structured Conversation Is Useful for Learning

You learn a lot by talking to the right people. Informal, unstructured conversations over coffee can be surprisingly revealing. But there’s nothing wrong with structuring conversation for particular learning. One on one or with a group, setting aside time to process a particular issue or experience for the sake of harvesting learning and growth is invaluable. […]

Here’s my favorite anecdote from Sebastian Junger’s new book

https://www.amazon.com/Tribe-Homecoming-Belonging-Sebastian-Junger/dp/1455566381 This is a swift little book and powerful. There are some gaps between it’s central claim (the individualism of modern life is destroying people) and a robust body of data, but Junger’s observations are prescient enough to warrant careful attention.  Here’s my favorite anecdote from the book: a man urges a young body to […]

Guilt Is Sometimes Laziness

Guilt is a developmental milestone. The capacity for contrition when you’ve done something you shouldn’t have or failed to do something you should have done signals maturity. The absence of remorse is a maturity problem. But the ability to move beyond guilt is also a developmental milestone. Wallowing in shame becomes something of a convenience after awhile, a […]

Friends Are Friends Forever

Youth ministry involves stewarding relationships between teenagers. The youth I work with are enmeshed in multiple networks of relationships at the same time, including those in their family, at school, online social networks, and teammates. Their relationships with one another at church rarely overlap with their relationships in those other spheres. So we have an opportunity […]