I Need To Stop Evaluating Everything All The Time

Somebody asked if there is anything I’m working on that I enjoy completely and don’t feel compelled to analyze and critique and dissect. He observed the weirdness of writing tortured blog posts about VBS, for example, while working on VBS.

The short answer is no. If I’m working on it, I’m picking it apart, doubting it, and looking for ways to improve it.

The shortcoming there of course is that constant real time analysis is a convenient escape from the demands of whatever it is we’re working on, especially if what we’re working on isn’t going all that well. If only two teens are showing up for youth group, it’s comforting to mentally shift into analytical gear instead of engaging, 100 percent, with the less-than-amazing project you actually have.

Let’s evaluate our work and ask the hard questions in order to make it more effective. But let’s not jump to evaluation before the work is done. Maybe we can only do one thing at a time.

You Lost Me at “Totally True”: Some VBS Hand Wringing

My job at VBS this week is to tell kids some of the “amazing, incredible, and totally true adventures” found in the Bible.

Actually, I’m leaving off the “totally true” part. What better way to ruin an adventure than to insist on its veracity? I don’t believe all of the Bible to be “totally true,” at least not in the sense that this curriculum wants kids to understand that term. Besides, what does “totally true” mean to children who are being treated to dramatized gimmicks like trying to create an iPad out of thin air (you know, the same way God created the world)?

My little editorial decision points up a quandry: progressive churches that run this summer programming staple must either invest scads of time and energy writing their own curriculum or else purchase one from an evangelical publisher like Group or Lifeway or Standard that almost certainly will need to be edited for both theological and pedagogical reasons (see iPad example above).

Don’t even ask about the denominational curriculum.

My church has chosen the latter. There is real value in a themed package with a narrative arc that incorporates music, crafts, games, and Bible stories, even if we never buy any of the little trinkets that go with it. And we don’t take the thing so seriously as to lose sleep over things kids will hardly notice, especially if we take the little time required to adapt it.

But we do wonder about alternatives. There’s a church nearby that runs a Peace Camp for kids in the summer, which they state clearly is not VBS. I’m intrigued.

Does your church do VBS? How are you negotiating the theology of most VBS curricula with your church’s posture?

The Right Way To Do Children’s Time

Yesterday I watched a skilled pastor tell the story of Jesus calming the storm to children, and I learned something new after telling that very story to children more times than I can remember.

I should say here that I was trained to tell Bible stories to children in a very particular way, and I’ve been doing it this way with almost no variation for a decade: get in, tell the story, then get out. No introductory questions. No illustrations. No props. And for Heaven’s sake, no the-moral-of-the-story-is type summaries. Just tell the story.

All of this is because young children are concrete thinkers. Metaphors are confusing, and that prop you thought would really bring the point home to them won’t. They’ll remember the prop, but not what it signified. Biblical stories are more than sufficient material of themselves without the added garb of meaning-making toys.

Back to yesterday. The pastor told the story with a winsome paraphrase, and then simply added, “This story is showing me that Jesus takes care of us.” That simple sentence made me sit up in my pew, because it located the authority of the story’s meaning in the teller’s present tense experience as a learner, and not, as I’ve always done, in the privileged domain of adulthood or, worse, the pastor’s office.

Since we don’t have time for exploration and conversation about the story, I think Children’s Times in worship services really have to include some kind of the-moral-of-the-story-is conclusion, and I think this is the right way to do it. How many times have I told kids that a story meant something, though, and missed the opportunity that this pastor perfectly seized, the opportunity to position myself as a learner among them and thus normalize for them a dynamic kind of relationship to Bible stories rather than a static one, a relationship that grows and changes over the course of your whole life, rather than one in which you learn once and for all and then finish?

This is how to tell Bible stories to kids, then: get in, tell the story, share what it’s teaching YOU, then get out.

Blogging for Posterity

The reason to put yourself out there today goes beyond today.

Maybe what you have to say is timely and will resonate with lots of people in the moment.

But more likely than not, what you have to say today will occur to people days, weeks, even months from now, and it will help them. That’s why you should say it before it gets away, now, today.

And then again tomorrow.

(With thanks to Jan Edminson)

Why Are Unison Readings Still Cool?

This is one if those staples of “traditional” worship that I almost never experienced in “contemporary” worship: the unison or responsive reading.

Sometimes it’s a prayer. Sometimes it’s a call to worship. It can also be a Scripture reading or an affirmation of faith.

It’s participatory, sure. Instead of a single leader up front talking, everybody talks. But it’s also scripted and can feel really lifeless, the printed, “Praise the Lord! ” intoned groggily as “PrstheLrd.”

It’s also the pinnacle of text-based worship, the coronation of words as queen of our liturgical court.

Somebody make the case for why responsive and unison readings are still the best expression of prayers and calls to worship for a contemporary worship environment.

Criticize Us, Please

It’s our fifth Middle School Mission Week, and I’m proud that some of the work sites we take our students to are the same ones we started with in 2011. I’m also proud that the basic structure of the thing still relies upon a team of youth leaders each tackling a piece of the project. I love watching my colleagues just kill it when it comes to leading youth in worship or showing them how to shovel gravel.

But God please help us to keep learning. A youth leader new to the project had some critical things to say about our organization today, and I found myself grateful. You, come to our planning retreat next September and share your experience with us in vivid detail. Then help us build this thing better. Please.

Five years is plenty of time for the thing that started out all loose and flexible and creative to get stuck. Learning from new voices will keep that from happening.

Most Important or Meh?

Is your church one important thing in its peoples’ lives, or is it the most important?

Which does it want to be?

I long ago quit fighting with Little League for church folks’ time, believing that time spent building up kids through team sports is a valuable expression of a Christian’s vocation to work for a better world. After all, what’s to say the church shouldn’t find ways to join folks in their Little League work?

Is that a Faustian bargain, though? Once we have elevated the value of practically every non-church commitment in our peoples’ lives, what unique value remains for the church ones? We don’t give trophies.

There’s a huge difference in how you plan and recruit for, say, a youth retreat, when you truly believe it is the most valuable way that a 10th grader could spend their weekend versus when you only think it’s one worthwhile thing they could be doing among many options, including, for example, a debate tournament.

Are we arguing for our church’s mission and worship as the most important thing on peoples’ schedules? If not, is it really because of an enlightened view of the plurality of commitments for modern people, or is it because we’re not sure it really is all that important?

Get Into Ordinary

What is “Ordinary?”

The constitution of the church I serve uses this word a lot:

“The installed pastor shall ordinarily moderate all meetings of the congregation.”

“The presbytery placing the call to the candidate for ministry shall ordinarily examine, ordain, and install the candidate.”

“The preaching of the Word shall ordinarily be done by a Teaching Elder.”

“When a child is being presented for Baptism, ordinarily the parent(s) or one(s) rightly exercising parental responsibility shall be an active member of the congregation.”

“Ordinarily” occurs over 50 times in the Presbyterian Book of Order. I like it. It’s a word that not only indicates the limits of what might be done, but, more importantly, asserts a wide range of possibility within what we “ordinarily” do.

I realize not everybody sees it that way. It’s often used as a stop sign on anything we might do at church that feels non-standard. It’s just as often used as a scapegoat, like we would be flourishing if only these pesky standards of “ordinary” weren’t in our way.

Maybe “Ordinarily” can function less as a gatekeeper type of term and more of an invitation: here’s what is ordinarily done. Play around with that and see what you can come up with.

“What can you do with “ordinarily?”

Testify

My favorite community organizer talks about the need to build up our own “personal experience and testimony” for the sake of connecting meaningfully with people around their personal experience and testimony. It should work like this:

talk to lots of people in one-on-one encounters. Listen really carefully. Take notes afterward if you need to. As you talk to more and more people, their stories–their testimonies–become part of yours, so that you will start to say in these conversations, “I keep hearing from people that they are experiencing X. Is that true for you?”

As it relates to the community where you live and work and seek to make a difference, what is your personal experience and testimony? How will you deepen it today? Next week?

They Can’t Get That Anywhere

I have a nagging critique that dogs a lot of my ministry work, especially work with youth: not Christian enough.

That our relationships with youth must issue in distinctively Christian expressions, like prayer or devotional lessons–and that interactions with youth that lack those expressions are fine but not really “ministry”–is a weight that I think a lot of us are bearing for no good reason. It’s the “They could get ‘relationships’ anywhere” dig.

The problem with that thinking is that trusting and reciprocal relationships with adults who aren’t their parents and aren’t paid to spend time with them can’t, for most youth, be had anywhere. We have multiplied the number of adults in relationship with teenagers to include coaches, teachers, tutors, scout leaders, college advisers, and so on. Yet all of those adults, in addition to being paid for their time with youth, have an agenda for them. It’s a good agenda, sure. But it’s an agenda.

Youth ministry should offer teenagers relationships with adults and a community of peers that wants nothing more of them than their very human Child-of-God selves. Share the gospel with them, yes. Study Scripture. Pray, please. But let’s stop banging our head against our Bibles if our gatherings with some youth don’t contain those distinctively Christian expressions.

We are the distinctively Christian expression. Us and our theological vision that squints to see teenagers as God sees them: inherently valuable and worth a universe of attention and time.

Nobody is saying this more clearly today than Andy Root.