Parenting Strategy

Two parenting strategies:

  1. Live your life
  2. Live your kid’s life

Live your life. Do your work, pursue your interests, hang out with your friends. This models adulthood for your kid and teaches them that they’re not the center of your life.

Live your kid’s life. Commit yourself to her schoolwork and activities, her friends, her general health and well-being. This lavishes her with love and attention and helps her grow in the confidence that she is worth it.

They’re both irresponsible on their own though. One leads to neglect and the other to co-dependence.

It feels like most of the work of parenting is discerning when to focus on the first and when the second. Then, having chosen, learning to do each well.

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