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If You Say, “Stay Tuned” . . .

Don’t say, “Stay tuned” if you don’t want people to hold you to what happens next.

First the good news: things ended in understanding. “We’re still friends,” is the report. “Just not BFFs.” There was a discussion, an airing of grievances.  There were tears. But in the end things were civil, not mean.

Now the bad news: the resolution was reached by way of the letter, delivered in the middle of the day, though, not the end, which allowed for the subsequent tearful back-and-forth. Baby Girl’s mother and I expressed our disappointment that that was the decision, and that’s the end of that.

I am hopeful, though, in my disappointment. Because she shared so much of this with us, and because she received our disapproval without defensively digging in, it feels like there will likely be a next time for this manner of discernment and deliberation. We will gladly take that, her mother and I, as a precious opportunity to listen and counsel as she makes her way towards more compassionate and responsible decisions.

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One thought on “If You Say, “Stay Tuned” . . .

  1. C Kerrigan says:

    YAY!! That sounds great.Glad for her and her friend, and you are right that being able to hear without defensiveness is greatly needed and scarce to come by these days. Hope she has a great summer.

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