Guilt Is Sometimes Laziness

Guilt is a developmental milestone. The capacity for contrition when you’ve done something you shouldn’t have or failed to do something you should have done signals maturity. The absence of remorse is a maturity problem.

But the ability to move beyond guilt is also a developmental milestone. Wallowing in shame becomes something of a convenience after awhile, a justification to not make new choices and embrace new commitments, because, well, look what you did.

I know some very mature, very spiritually healthy people, who have sketchy pasts but have moved through guilt about them to honest resolve; they’re more motivated by a vision of the future–a better them, a better world–than they are by some disgraced posture of lifelessness.

I want to be like those people.

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