“I don’t get to know what will happen. I don’t get to know why it happened, what I did right or wrong, not now. I have to live with that.” (Maggie, The Walking Dead).
Every choice takes away choice. When we say “Yes” to something, we are necessarily saying “No” to something else. We mostly know that.
What I am appreciating more and more, though, is the range of matters over which we forfeit influence with every choice we make. Choosing one direction means more than not choosing another direction; it also means letting that other direction play out on its own, without our input or effort, to outcomes independent of choices we might have made.
This is the only way to live, then: investing our whole being in the opportunities we feel compelled to pursue and entrusting all the other potential projects and relationships to the bright stars who will take them who are not us.