Stages

I need to figure myself out first, then I’ll focus on my relationship.

I need to focus on who I am in the core of my being before I focus on what I want to do.

I need to grow in my relationship with God. Relationships with people come second.

Being human doesn’t happen in stages, though, mainly because we can’t really know when we’re in which stage and when or how to move to a different one. Also, stages are constructs. They’re useful for understanding things like development in very broad terms, but they’re very unreliable guides for deciding how to spend our time today.

Focusing on relationships is figuring out ourselves and growing in our relationship with God. What we want to do is part of who we are.

If we’re putting something off for the sake of a stage, there’s probably another reason.